I'm often asked: how is your daughter today?
Here is a picture of my daughter and her son during Christmas 2009. As you can see, she has not only regained her life, she is fully living life again!
From the time we flew out of Germany in 2003, my daughter has been well. Given that she had suffered an agonizing 14 years, we consider her turnaround to be nothing short of a miracle.
However, we all know that "miracles" often only come on the heel of great trial. For adhesions sufferers, the journey toward renewed health can be the most difficult challenge they will ever face.
Being that my daughter and I have "been there, done that," we know what worked and what didn't.
It is disheartening when a doctor makes promises prior to surgery only to become "baffled" after surgery as he attempts to explain away the reasons his original high expectations failed you.
Many adhesions sufferers have an all too common post-op report: "The doctor said I was the worst case he's ever seen...he did all he could." This is often followed by..."I'll never be well."
Clearly, adhesions sufferers have their work cut out for them if they want to regain quality of life.
Just as one man has his way of repairing a sagging ceiling and believes it to be the only way to repair a sagging ceiling, another man may have a better idea. The person with the sagging ceiling only wants one thing: to look up at his ceiling and see it is repaired! We don't want to hear, "Your ceiling was the worst I've ever seen...," after we've authorized (and paid) him to do the job.
Granted, surgeons' are often "going in blindly," much to the contrary of a ceiling repairman. However, just as there are ceiling repairmen who do a quality job and you are pleased with the outcome, there are also those (and most of us have encountered them) who do a poor job and then blame their lack of skill on your poorly built home.
Likewise, there are surgeons' who will take a stab at your case--no pun intended--simply because they too have a mortgage, golf club fees, and kids who need braces. Yes, sad to say, but some physicians have motive that far outweigh your hopes to become well.
From someone who walked the medical maze with an extremely ill child, I hope to save you some steps..or at least help you avoid the jagged crooks in the road (pun intended!)
Here's just a small list of things to consider: Research the doctor and his method of adhesiolysis. Ask questions. Ask for names and phone numbers of prior patients who are willing to speak about their outcome. (Yes, more and more doctors are happy to provide a list of contacts). Keep in mind that one person's bad (or good) experience does not indicate you will have a bad (or good) experience; each case is different. What type of barrier will be used during surgery? Is the barrier one that has proven to be successful? Will he perform laparoscopic (minimally invasive) surgery? If not, why not? (Laparotomy should be avoided if at all possible.) How often has he resorted to laparotomy (open incision) after beginning laparoscopically? Does he inform the patient (in writing) the chance that a laparotomy may be required?
Too often we trust the doctor simply because he is a doctor. Melissa and I began her journey with that same trust. Unfortunately, we had to learn things the hard way: 10 minute office visits followed by a plethora of tests, doctors, and specialists would never be the answer to her suffering.
For the adhesions sufferer, the chance for healing will only come via the physician who is keen to this disorder, has a tried and true method of adhesiolysis, adequate tools and products to perform the job, as well as the gift of being a surgeon who truly cares about his patient.
